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Unintentional Spat.

So, from the great stupidity that prompted the “HOW DARE YOU” post a few back, we have also ran across another one from our dear friend Ashley. Although this happened a few days ago, it started a whirlwind of debate and of course a lot of problems, again.

There is one thing that “Most” mil spouses know not to say, and that is that they are military.
we will start from the beginning, Military spouses are NOT affiliated with the military in any way except that their spouses are “in the military”.  This idiot thinks she has any and all rights to claim to be a “military person”.

Now here is what went down, and i had to dig through numerous messages to find this since the chick blocked me.

She was sitting at the LA airport, waiting 4 hours for her husband (who is in A-school) to come pick her up. She figured out about the USO, which is a little area that military  members and their families can go to relax between flights or while waiting for someone to pick them up, usually on PCS or deployments, they can be found at most big airports.  she “checked in” at the USO with the update of  ” Ahhhhhh I love being a military person!”

Now I may be a bit mean sometimes, and I may be a bit over the top, but seriously no spouse deserves the right to say that they are “military” unless they are active duty, reserves, or a retired/veteran.  So I responded with :

“ok, I have to put this out there, since your still a newbie and stuff. You cannot claim you are a “military person”. You, yourself, along with me, and Rena and any other spouse that did not serve, are not military people. we are citizens. We do not wear combat boots, we do not go to war, we do not go to boot camp, and we do not live in sub par conditions to defend our country. Our spouses do. The only people that are permitted to say they are military people are those who are enlisted, or are veterans/retired. This is just one thing that irks the hell out of me, and many other spouses. I admit the USO is a great thing for families of service members, and it helps a lot of families out, especially those PCS’ing, we’ve used the LAX one when we were heading out here, but saying something to the extent of being in the military when you are not is going to get you into a lot of trouble. Just and FYI. Not being mean, just stating the facts.”

Now, prior to posting this on her status update, I proceeded to pass what she said to a few spouses, veterans and active duty members. Each and every one of them was offended and just upset about what she said. Taking credit for something that she had no right to take credit for (mind you this was building up before I posted this… We’ll get into it in a minute), along with just not understanding that a statement such as that could honestly be heard by the wrong person, and she could end up in a fight, or getting her ass chewed by a higher up. She is outcasting herself, and my “comment” was just to clarify that what she did was unacceptable, and she needed to switch it up or she was going to get in trouble.

Shortly after that was posted, I got deleted and blocked, along with 2 of my friends who also were mil wives trying to help her out, who had nothing at all to do with that post.  Wow. this girl. *sigh*

Lets get this point across. This girl is the wayyyy overly ZOMG MIL BLAH WOOOOOOOOOO! she also has posted things that were wrong, such as something about “shooting little towel heads”, someone has called her out on, she tries to post stuff to show how much better the Air Force is to any other branch, which is later disproved since her information is outdated. THEN to top it, she was the one bashing other branches. This girl is in for a whirlwind of hurt, and trouble, and I can see her hurting her husband’s career. I give it a year before she screws up to the point where her husband gets one of those “Muzzle your bitch” talks, as my friend would say.  Oh well. She lost 3 people who could have helped her get far. Now she can learn on her own.


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Little Piece of Paradise

With how often I blab about hating Hawaii, I have to admit it really is quite beautiful… I’ve decided to upload a few photos I’ve taken since I’ve been out here, Mind you most are of the kiddo, but eh! She’s cute so it’s okay. On a side note, I have actually begun enjoying living here. I gave up on being miserable, and have decided to just make the best of it, especially since we are going to be here the next 2 1/2 years. People always comment on how I’m so “lucky” to be living in paradise, or how I should be greatful to live in a place so wonderful, but I just can’t bring myself to actually feel like I’m living in paradise. I am a regular citizen, living in a city (mind you 2.3 miles from the beach which is a plus), struggling to make ends meet, and it doesn’t exactly help much that I have no car and my husband works clear over at Pearl Harbor. I’m gonna get there though. I have a few health issues to work through and then I will be back on the boat of getting into shape, playing more with the kiddo and the crazy pup, and of course making my way around the island and truely exploring the culture. I’ll get there. and I’ll make this my own personal paradise. Sooner or later 😉

Beach day

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January 31, 2012 · Filed under Uncategorized · Tagged , , ,

I forgot I had this page. and So much has happened since that last post. The attempt to quit smoking epically failed. I was doing good until just under a week before June 1st, when my husband came home and told me he was deploying in  a week. I’ve never felt so heartbroken in my life. It was as if my life came crashing down, and the feelings of being alone in a place where I knew no one terrified me.
I managed to make it work. The day he deployed, I packed my dog and daughter up and we made the horrible drive from California to South Dakota to stay with family for a month. Thank goodness my (2 year old at the time) daughter was an excellent co-pilot for the trip. she kept me awake and we had a blast pretending we were on an adventure. It was great to see my mom, spend time with my nephew, and to see all my friends again. Although it was short lived when my daughters biological father decided he was going to make a statement which included something of “I’m going to commit suicide” after dropping her off after the 4th of July fireworks… Thank goodness she stays with her grandparents, and they showed up shortly after. I met up with him the next day to talk about everything, and I spoke with his mom (who is close to being my own) about his issues and my concern for him needing help. The next day we headed back to California for my daughter’s safety, and for my own. Plus we had a cat that apparently really missed us while we were gone.

We spent an additional 3 months alone at the house, I learned I had broken my foot, so gimping around while taking care of a 3 year old, a cat, a dog, and doing all the house things was highly difficult, and on top of it the orders for Hawaii came in so I had to get all the Overseas Screenings and such completed, by myself. Mind you, this was new to me. I had NO idea what the hell I was doing, I just grit my teeth and did what I was told.

That deployment was 100 times worse than the first when we were just dating. It was shorter because of his PCS, but it was so heart wrenching. I stayed strong for my kiddo, but I had issues sleeping, eating, getting things done (which didn’t help with the broke foot), and just trying to keep on truckin’.

We were fortunate enough to be able to spend our 1 year anniversary together, and then shortly after all of our goods were packed up, and we were on our way to South Dakota to visit prior to the big move. We spent the entire month of November in SD, and loved every moment of it! Then, we made the super long trek to Hawaii.

That was by far the longest and most stressful plane ride I have ever been on, but once again the kiddo was a trooper. 7 hours from South dakota to Los Angeles, then a 5 hour nap at the USO (thank god for those little places), than a long 6 hour straight flight to Hawaii. Now, as much as the kiddo and I fly now, I admit I’m not very good on planes. I’m terrified of hights, and have a great fear of flying, but I did manage to crochet 4 hats on that flight 🙂 luckily they didn’t trash my hooks.


When we got to Hawaii, it was a week of stays in hotels and cottages waiting for a house to come up. We ended up finding a house out on the town since the wait list was 4 months, and I refused to have Christmas in a hotel. All our household goods were delivered the next day, and we were lucky enough to be able to pick up our car (we shipped the month prior) the day we landed.

So far, it is odd living here. The people and the culture are not what I expected at all, and actually many of the islanders are very unfriendly towards the “Haole” or outsiders. I have run into quite a few that are extremely nice and very helpful, but the farther inland you get, the meaner they get, and then I saw why. But that is for another time.


Soon we will have our dog shipped out here, Rayne is enrolling in T-ball and peewee hockey (I know right?) and the hubby is settling in nicely at his new station. I’m just grateful that no more deployments are to come for 3 years…. as long as nothing bad happens.

Promise to keep up on this blog this time, once I remembered I had it I realized I had completely forgotten to update it since my hubby got back from FEX.

so in all we had



Deployment/trip home

broken foot/ Overseas Screening

End of Deployment



Home for Thanksgiving

and then Moved to Hawaii.
SIGH so much…

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